I grew butternut in SW Scotland last year.
You have to sow them in 3 " pots early April in the warm. Keep them warm until mid-June, which means transplanting them into 8" pots in May.
Obviously you have to transplant them again, this time into the ground, whhich, if you're not strong can be challenging.
I dig a hole a foot each way, fill it with well composted cattle muck, draw the soil back on top, so it's a mound; dig a hole in the mound the same dia as the pot, but a couple of inches shallower.
After banging the pot a few times with your hand to loosen it, kneel near the hole, put the stem between the two middle fingers of your WEAKER hand & turn the pot upside down. When you lift the pot away, just throw it out of the way as quickly as you can, then use both hands to quickly guide it into the hole.
I always make sure to try & have a couple of extra plants, as I'm quite clumsy.
I got two per plant (4).
Or you could, instead of putting them in the ground, put them in 24" pots, which will mean a lot more work in terms of watering & feeding, but at least you can bring them into the greenhouse or polytunnel if we get a poor summer.
I'm thinking that the squash bred for patio may be the way forward; smaller fruit, but there is only the wife & I.
Chuck: That difference in maturity times is a killer, as it makes winter squash, even small ones, marginal.